How can I make mysql manager wait longer for mysql to stop

[Bryan Cantwell]

I'm using mysql 5.0.51a (yes I know it's old but I cannot upgrade at the
moment) on linux.

My challenge is that mysql admin does not wait long enough for mysql
database(s) which are all innodb and VERY large (billions of rows) and
eventually just kills the db.
This causes innodb to try and repair itself on restart and really cuases
trouble for us.

How can I make mysqladmin never give up on the mysql to gracefully stop?

Bryancan